Does any of this sound familiar?
• Do you try to calmly talk with them about basic things, only for it to end up in an argument?
• Were they once incredibly charming and said all the right things, but now they are mean, apathetic, or passive aggressive?
• Have you tried to change yourself or your feelings, because you know they refuse to change, merely because they don’t think they have to?
• Do you feel incredibly alone, like no one will understand, because to everyone else they are perfect?
• Have you been cheated on yet somehow they make it your fault?
• Or perhaps you have already broken up, yet you are constantly sucked back in by their begging, promises to change, or even threats?
• Have you promised yourself that you will end the relationship, only to find yourself going back to them because you feel guilty, sorry for them, or afraid of being alone or good?
You are in a relationship with a narcissist, and if you haven’t figured it out already, they will never, ever change.
Narcissists have an over inflated sense of self, and expect people to adore and admire them. When you ask that they alter their behavior, they perceive it as an injury to their ego, and then will punish you for any type of request. They think they are special, and for anyone who doesn’t agree with them, they will discard them. Which is why they will never change.
Only you can change.
If you’re with a narcissist, it is likely that you experienced childhood trauma of some kind. Perhaps you were abused or neglected as a child. Your mother or father was likely a narcissist, and you were loved only on certain conditions.
For me, my mother died in a car accident when I was just 6 years old, and I was with her in that car, and I almost died myself. My father, now a widower, struggled to take care of my brother and me, so he hired one nanny after another to watch over us. Although we were taken care of, the unconditional love was extremely limited. I quickly learned to put other people’s needs before mine.
I didn’t speak up for what I wanted, and felt awful if I did. So instead, I gave in order to receive, and whatever I received was limited at best.
I became codependent.
I felt that if I over gave, people would love me more. If I pleased others, I would receive love.
As I grew into a young woman, all I wanted was a prince charming who could save me from my pain. The hole in my heart could only be filled by someone else, because I didn’t know how to do it myself. In fact, I was taught that.
So when I met my husband at just 18 years old, he was everything I needed him to be – he cared and loved for me, and more importantly, he became a father figure that I desperately craved. We had two children before I turned 30, but after my second child, I knew something was gravely wrong in my marriage.
I began to grow up – I wanted a career, new friends, and hobbies. As I started to change, my husband was deeply threatened by need for spreading my wings. He became controlling, and the more we fought, I felt more and more trapped.
I had to break free from him, and we separated when I turned 35.
But the guilt and sorrow was overwhelming, and I almost retreated back to my dungeon on more than one occasion. Because I felt so incredibly sad and scared, and didn’t know how to put myself back together, I searched for yet another prince charming to rescue me.
And that’s when I met another narcissist.
This one broke my heart. He lied, cheated, and ultimately ignored me. I actually didn’t think I would come out of that break up alive. I truly hit my rock bottom, and suffered immense depression. One afternoon I spent three hours, just lying on the floor – I would cry hysterically, and then it would turn to numbness, and then I would cry once again.
That’s when I became tired of being a victim. I was ready to be a VICTOR.
I learned everything there was about narcissistic personality disorder. I read books, attended seminars, and became a student of personal growth. The culmination of my studies made me realize the missing link in my life: self-love.
If I couldn’t have self-love, how can I expect anyone to love me, unconditionally?
I learned the tools and developed the necessary boundaries to repel future narcissists, as well as how to co-parent with my ex-husband. For once and for all, I finally broke free.
I found new love and married a healthy, loving man.
I am finally at peace and blissfully happy.
Now, I teach thousands of people all over the world to do the same.
And I want that for you.
It is my mission to help every person on this planet to no longer suffer from their narcissistic abuser. Which is why I created this ground breaking course, Break Free From Your Narcissist. It has helped so many, and now it WILL help you. It’s my promise.
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Break Free from Your Narcissist: A Ground-breaking Online Course
The course contains 6 modules and two bonus modules, which are roughly 55 minutes long (it varies depending on module). Each module contains video slides, which are presented by me.
Here’s what you get with your purchase:
Here is the breakdown of what’s inside each module:
- Why I created this course
- My personal story
- How to use the course
- Additional resources to help you
Module 1 – Understanding Your Narcissist
- Understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
- The dynamic between you and your Narcissist
- The Cycle of Despair
- The Narcissistic Fairy Tale
- The impact of Narcissistic Supply, Lack of Empathy, Martyrdom
Module 2 – Why It Is So Hard To Break Free
- How your childhood may have led you to attract your narcissist
- Codependency and what does that mean?
- Understanding the three different phases of being with a narcissist
- Why you are a perfect match for a Narcissist
Module 3 – Getting Clarity
- Discovering Self Love
- The true secret to what is holding yourself back!
- How to set boundaries
- Giving yourself permission to have and want what you require
Module 4 – Dealing with the Fear
- The 7 fears that will prevent you from ever changing your life
- How to deal with each fear
- Proof that these are just fears, nothing more
Module 5 – Breaking Free!
- How to create a boundary plan – and stick to it!
- Real scripts on how to end the relationship (and what they might say!)
- How to never get sucked back in again (and feeling the freedom to say no)
Module 6 – The Aftermath – How Do You Trust Again?
- My #1 secret on getting past your trust issues
- How to spot a Narcissist from a Mile Away
- Do you ever date again? Gain the tools to give you dating confidence again
Bonus Module 1 – Preparing for Divorce
If you are divorcing a narcissist, don’t miss the MOST important module in this entire course! You will learn:
- How to find the RIGHT attorney, the first time
- Questions to ask your attorney
- The top 20 issues that are often forgotten in the divorce process (don’t let this be you!)
- How to not go crazy during divorce
Bonus Module 2 – How to Co-parent with Your Narcissistic Ex
- Two secretive, yet critical strategies for managing your manipulator
- How to build a safe haven for your children
- How to move on with your life, even if you must co-parent!
Are You Ready to Break Free?
Nowhere else will you be able to find a course that specifically targets your exact situation, and how to break from your narcissist. So often I hear from my course members, “I have spent hours and hours in therapy, yet no one told me any of this!”
This course is a powerful tool, that will give you the validation and support you need.
If you are ready, first ask yourself, what are you willing to spend for freedom?
Think about all that you buy every year, and what does it actually give you? Can you even remember half of it?
For once, consider this course as an investment in YOU.
When was the last time you invested in yourself?
With all that is given to you in the course (including 8 worksheets and over 8 hours worth of training), it is valued at $4,350.
But you don’t have to pay that much. Not even close.
I’m offering this amazing course to you for just $497.
You are worth this cost! Don’t think for a minute that you aren’t.
You cannot break free from a narcissist without it.
The Amazing Impact:
What Members are Saying about Break Free from Your Narcissist
I’m just e-mailing to say thank you for your online course. My journey away from my N is not over but I have today moved into little rented house here in South Wales, UK and I wouldn’t have got this far without you.
I didn’t realise what my husband was when I left. It was the day after, when I considered how truly superficial his reaction seemed to be, that I pondered – ‘does he just have shallower feelings?’ So I google the question and your blog on the huff post came up. From there I just read and read and read, mostly with my mouth gaping open. I wondered if you’d been in my house watching.
Since then your course had predicted almost all of his reactions and tricks to get us back. I was well armed and not confused. It was like being a fly on the wall.
I know it’s not over for us yet and we have a fight ahead, but I wanted to say thank you for doing what you’ve done. You could have done a hundred things with your life, but bless you for choosing this. So from one saved soul in the UK – thank you.Allison
Think of this course as an insurance policy to your mental health and wellness!
You cannot get divorced or break up with a narcissist without it. Otherwise, you may make costly financial mistakes by hiring the wrong attorney or giving away your assets, all because you don’t know any better. This course will prevent you from making those mistakes!
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What’s Holding You Back?
Let’s walk through some of your possible fears, and let’s knock them out! Maybe you’ve said the following in your head:
“What if they find out I’m taking this course?”
“I’m afraid of really hearing the truth.”
My course is designed with YOU in mind, and all of the information is delivered to you in a loving, gentle manner. You will never be put down by me, and I will never make you feel bad about all that you have endured. In fact, you will learn strategies on how to overcome your fears as well as have real scripts on how to talk to your narcissist, your lawyer, your family and children. You will not only feel heard, but you will feel confident and supported!
“I’m not ready to do anything just yet. I’ll sign up when I’m ready to take action.”
This course doesn’t force you to do anything you’re not ready to do. You have all the time in the world to complete it, and you do it on your terms and at your speed. The first four modules will give you amazing insight as to what you might be experiencing, and will teach you that it’s NOT okay to be treated poorly. Why not get those tools right now? The beauty of this course is that it offers lifetime access – so if you choose not to take action for several more months, it’s here when you’re ready.
Lindsey Ellison is founder of Start Over. Find Happiness., a coaching practice designed to help women navigate through their divorce or break ups. She is a published author of many blogs including Huffington Post, Psych Central, DivorcedMoms.com, not to mention her own at LindseyEllison.com. She is also a motivational speaker on all things divorced and breakups, and has shared the stage with relationship expert Dr. John Gray, author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Her passion for helping women break free from their narcissistic partners led her to creating her groundbreaking online course, Break Free From Your Narcissist.